Product Description
How many times have you been manipulated or taken advantage of by someone's lies? Are you tired of being deceived, tricked, and fooled? Finally, renowned behaviorist David J. Lieberman shows you how to stop the lies and uncover the truth-- in any conversation or situation. In a simple, user-friendly format, Dr. Lieberman gives you the tools to determine, with uncanny accuracy, if you are being lied to.
Utilizing newly developed techniques in hypnosis and psycholinguistics, this book also shows you how to easily influence anyone to tell the truth-- within minutes. Use it in any situation, from casual conversation to in-depth interviews. Never Be Lied to Again is chock-full of colorful examples and engaging scenarios to help you keep from being taken advantage of and give you that extra edge. Use these groundbreaking techniques to take control of every personal and business situation...and never be lied to again.
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Amazon.com Review
When liars are being accused of something, they'll stay calm because they're working on their rebuttal; this is why detectives were suspicious of O.J. Simpson when he didn't express outrage when accused of murdering his ex-wife and Ronald Goldman. Never Be Lied to Again is bursting with tested tips like this for quickly determining when you're being boondoggled. Body language, facial expressions, sentence structure, and word choice can all reveal when someone is lying, says psychologist David J. Lieberman, and he includes 46 of these "clues to deception" to help you, including tricks for framing questions without putting others on the defense. Once you use your newly honed "human lie detector" skills to figure out if you're being lied to, you can then dig for the truth using the specific, influential words and body postures that Lieberman suggests. Written with flair and humor, Never Be Lied to Again is designed to help you get the upper hand in any situation, whether you're trying to figure out if your spouse is cheating on you or if you suspect your coworkers are cooking the books.
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 Please don't be suckered in to buying this book by its great title!! ( bondingwithbooks )
This book should be subtitled: If you think someone is a liar, you are one step closer to proving it! Rarely do I see such a highly rated book with such dorky, inner Nixon, paranoid advice as this. Really, the author advises clumsy trickery and other shenanigans to get the liar to fess up. The premise that you are talking to someone that you already know is a liar, is the number one ace up your sleeve according to this book. This sounds like the hokey rationalizations that my stepmother and old babysitters used to use on us kids years ago when attempting to sniff out the liar amongst us, always beginning and ending with the idea that we were all liars anyway.
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In under 5 minutes?? ( seamusoriley )
If something appears too good to be true, it usually is. The author's shameless self promotion is another give away, but take a look at one of his principles----(skip the 5 minute idea and see the news programs where FBI agents; the best in the US, take 4 hours for a full interview...--
the principle the author says is that when someone is lying, they don't give many details because IT NEVER HAPPENED.
Look at the Casey Anthony case. We have INCREDIBLE details (literally). We have not only a fake "nanny", but we get a full description, relatives, car accident, injury, injury follow up, and on and on and on. TMI: TOO MUCH INFORMATION.
Liars will pile on details, but what they lack is SENSORY descriptions. When a rape victim says "his hands smelled like motor oil" it is likely true. It was, sadly, something that stuck in her mind.
A good interview takes hours.
Mark McClish: I Know You Are Lying is a standard for Law Enforcement. It is a skill to be aquired and it will never be done in 5 minutes, nor in the time it takes to read a book. It takes lots and lots of practice, and although someone with training and LOTS of practice may pick up possible deception early on, it takes time to establish: is this a lie? is it withholding information? and if so, WHY?
This is more like an Informercial where the author uses Amazon to bang on his own drum. This is not something professionals ever need to do; their work speaks for them.
Pass on the fluff. I would recommend StatementAnalysis dot com as a good starting point.
People who are good at this are not "human lie detectors"; they are just very good at picking up deceptive language, which is far more telling than body language. Try interviewing someone who gives the signals of deception with his legs, only later to learn that with ADHD off medicine, his legs move like that ALL the time; not just when being interviewed.
Language is the key.
How did Solomon discern between who's baby it was? Language.
What did the Bible say, centuries ago? "Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth doth speak".
Although some body language and eye movement is helpful, it is only in conjunction with good, old fashioned listening...THAT is something that takes time to cultivate.
Check out McClish's excellent work. Go to findarticles dot com and read some of the FBI's published papers on statement analysis and deception. You will be glad you did, if you are interested in cultivating the skill of learning when being lied to.
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 The absolute BEST book I've ever read aside from the Holy Bible!! ( anthony706 )
I could NOT put this book down for WEEKS after I started reading it!! David Lieberman manages to cover SO much about liars and their(actually easy-to-recognize)deceptive ways!! This book will have you totally ENTHRALLED if you(like 95% of people)find yourself fed-up with being lied to!! I am SO very glad that I purchased this book!! Believe me,this book is a virtually GOLD-MINE of useful information and lie-detecting techniques!!
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 You have to be a liar to catch a liar? ( chillyayo )
The author works from the premise that you have to be a liar to catch a liar. Though `Lie'-berman doesn't explicitly state it that way, he none the less leads the reader down that path. The deceitful methods to get the truth out of people that Lieberman stresses range from outright lying to white lying in order to judge whether or not the other person is lying. I know a great majority of the people who purchase this type of book aren't necessarily honest people themselves, but to those honest few who just want to know the truth you won't find it here, or at least not by any decent means.
The title of the book should really be called "How to Lie Better". Lieberman states if you want to find out if your secretary has been leaving early you should pretend, rather assume that she is and then tell her that you know what she's done and that it's okay. To me this highlights the obvious flaw of the book and that is judge of character and proper screening is far superior at determining whether or not a person is likely to be a liar. Sadly Lieberman doesn't divulge this little secret. If people could learn to screen others more accurately there would hardly be a need for this book (not saying that people would stop lying, it'll just make it less likely).
And that's where the boundary of integrity and common sense comes into play. If you don't care about integrity or lack common sense you will undoubtedly choose similar type of people into your life. This book merely masks the problem in a game of who lies better. Learning initially to screen people better will eradicate 99% of the problems outlined in the book.
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wow
see what happens when you really pay attention to people? this book is very insightful!
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